I see so many around me,
hungry...desperate for love
that comes from a
relationship.
Wanting to be held, sent
texts, called and visited,
given gifts and told they are
special and mean
something. They want to be called,"baby","sweetheart"and God knows what else.
Some even hungry for sexual satisfaction. But this is certainly not"needful"for people who
don't even know where they are going in life or who they are.
I see so many youths wasting their God-given time, talents and energies pursuing relationships that
are not meaningful. Meaningless not because they are necessarily bad.
But when you go after a good thing at a wrong time, can you handle it in a good way?
And can the results yield something good?
People keep saying when the person they were with leaves them that he or she
left because it wasn't meant to be. I don't buy that.
I cannot believe EVERYONE leaves because it was not to be!
I cannot believe EVERY SINGLE RELATIONSHIP hit the rocks because it was
just not"their time". That it all ends because the elements or something worked against them.
That's as improbable as saying every relationship ended because of one person's issues.
More likely both had a hand in it.
**Then again, there are some people who...well, let's not go there**
The truth is that some of us are just not ready!
We're not mature for such commitment.
We lack understanding of even the most basic principle that love is not just"a feeling you feel".
How then can we handle a relationship right?
And if we can't, what on God's green earth are we doing in one?
No wonder all over the place are broken hearts and bruised spirits. One period I had counseled so many youths I was ready to explode with everything from tears to anger. So much wasted time and strength!
Why the rush?
Why the clamor?
Why run through life when you should take it one step at a time?
The average youth now in secondary school already has a boyfriend or girlfriend and by university, they've had at least three relationships.
No, I'm not mouthing off; I've had the chance to counsel more than I can count!
What's going on here?
Why this sudden hunger?
Ladies who cannot even understand what it means to nurture a man, his child or help him build a home are
busy dating and running from one relationship to another!
Men, who don't even know where they'll be 3 years from now, not to mention 5 years are chasing after girls
and speaking of being in
love and having a boo! (Is this Rent-a-ghost? Or Casper the friendly ghost?) God, have mercy!
There is a time for everything! Be focused and go through life stage by stage!
Don't skip life's classes! You'll regret it in the end and only have yourself to blame!
And then we'll hear the usual sad story; "All guys are just the same"and"All girls are just
the same". "Young women of Jerusalem, promise me by the power of deer and gazelles never to awaken love before it is ready...The passion of love bursting into flame is more powerful than death,
stronger than the grave. Love cannot be drowned by oceans or floods; it cannot be bought, no matter what is offered". Songs of Songs 8:4-7 (Contemporary English Version) Does that by any chance
sound like something you should dabble and experiment in with every Tom, Dick, Emeka and James?
Or every Jane, Sarah and Hannah? Sit still.
Build yourself. Be focused and develop and grow.
When the time comes, you'll know. Believe me, as long as your mind and spirit are attuned
you will know! And then who will stand in your way? Then your relationship will be right and flow...at least,
it will have the chance to! And then, what a great marriage one can have
when one has gone through the process and grown and matured.
something. They want to be called,"baby","sweetheart"and God knows what else.
Some even hungry for sexual satisfaction. But this is certainly not"needful"for people who
don't even know where they are going in life or who they are.
I see so many youths wasting their God-given time, talents and energies pursuing relationships that
are not meaningful. Meaningless not because they are necessarily bad.
But when you go after a good thing at a wrong time, can you handle it in a good way?
And can the results yield something good?
People keep saying when the person they were with leaves them that he or she
left because it wasn't meant to be. I don't buy that.
I cannot believe EVERYONE leaves because it was not to be!
I cannot believe EVERY SINGLE RELATIONSHIP hit the rocks because it was
just not"their time". That it all ends because the elements or something worked against them.
That's as improbable as saying every relationship ended because of one person's issues.
More likely both had a hand in it.
**Then again, there are some people who...well, let's not go there**
The truth is that some of us are just not ready!
We're not mature for such commitment.
We lack understanding of even the most basic principle that love is not just"a feeling you feel".
How then can we handle a relationship right?
And if we can't, what on God's green earth are we doing in one?
No wonder all over the place are broken hearts and bruised spirits. One period I had counseled so many youths I was ready to explode with everything from tears to anger. So much wasted time and strength!
Why the rush?
Why the clamor?
Why run through life when you should take it one step at a time?
The average youth now in secondary school already has a boyfriend or girlfriend and by university, they've had at least three relationships.
No, I'm not mouthing off; I've had the chance to counsel more than I can count!
What's going on here?
Why this sudden hunger?
Ladies who cannot even understand what it means to nurture a man, his child or help him build a home are
busy dating and running from one relationship to another!
Men, who don't even know where they'll be 3 years from now, not to mention 5 years are chasing after girls
and speaking of being in
love and having a boo! (Is this Rent-a-ghost? Or Casper the friendly ghost?) God, have mercy!
There is a time for everything! Be focused and go through life stage by stage!
Don't skip life's classes! You'll regret it in the end and only have yourself to blame!
And then we'll hear the usual sad story; "All guys are just the same"and"All girls are just
the same". "Young women of Jerusalem, promise me by the power of deer and gazelles never to awaken love before it is ready...The passion of love bursting into flame is more powerful than death,
stronger than the grave. Love cannot be drowned by oceans or floods; it cannot be bought, no matter what is offered". Songs of Songs 8:4-7 (Contemporary English Version) Does that by any chance
sound like something you should dabble and experiment in with every Tom, Dick, Emeka and James?
Or every Jane, Sarah and Hannah? Sit still.
Build yourself. Be focused and develop and grow.
When the time comes, you'll know. Believe me, as long as your mind and spirit are attuned
you will know! And then who will stand in your way? Then your relationship will be right and flow...at least,
it will have the chance to! And then, what a great marriage one can have
when one has gone through the process and grown and matured.
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